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I have lived another year, it is not my birthday on 8th July it was the first anniversary of my by-pass operation. Is it a milestone or millstone across my chest.

The scar is still red and raised it appears like I have an earthworm attached between my mammory glands image


I have had numerous suggestions on how to make it less visible:
Cover it -do not wear low cut tops
Bathe topless – sunshine is good for healing
Bio oils – rub in
Vitamin E oil- buy best capsules you can, burst a capsule rub in the oil and take one also


Recently I read an article by Robin Korth called the Naked Truth where she talks about a man’s reaction to her aging body. I quote

“As I looked in the mirror — clear-eyed and brave — I claimed every inch of my body with love, honor and deep care. This body is me. She has held my soul and carried my heart for all of my days. Each wrinkle and imperfection is a badge of my living and of my giving of life. With tears in my eyes, I hugged myself close. I said thank you to God for the gift of my body and my life. And I said thank you to a sad man named Dave for reminding me of how precious it all is.”

I believe I have earned my scars, wear them do not cover them, it does not upset me and I am not going to spend money on buying clothes to suit you. Look away. Number two well hum. Bio oil has caused allergic reactions and had no effect on my carotid scar, so I am sticking with Vitamin E, literally and time, scars do fade and change with time.

Am I back to me? Are you well? You look so much better!
I could write a whole book on words – sentences not to say to people who are ill or convalescing. Simple rule do not tell me – ask me how I am, then try and listen or the conversation is over. Let us talk weather, soccer or the latest book.

Well no, I am not me not the one you new two years ago, I am like my house, we have torn bits out of it, created new better spaces, the snag list is long and new problems, needing renewal an repair raise their heads. I mean to say in the foundations and walks of me, that you know I am creating, building and renovating me, as I am today. Within the mess an chaos I transmute into an iteration of the me I want or hope to be.

They talk about post-traumatic disorder for soldiers but they now also recognise it for people going through cancers and other illnesses. You wake up in intensive care after the operation the trick is knowing and living with the body and person who you wake up as, learning as a child does what this body can do, what the mind an heart can comprehend. The best advice I can give is give yourself a hug and say thank you to your spirit guide, God whatever that you have that extra year(s).
Live large my friends.



Some questions for you: Name the biggest killer (most common cause of death) of women over age 25 Did more men or women die Of strokes? Breast Cancer kills more women than Heart disease true or false? Below are some facts: read them, understand them, protect yourselves, save your wives, mothers, sisters and friends. Women do not believe that heart disease is a health threat, yet it’s the Biggest killer! More than 35% of all Female deaths are from cardiac disease.  We are NOT protected before the menopause, the risk is lower BUT not risk free. Doctors also believe the risk free fallacy!



  • Know your family history, if you parents or siblings had problems young, your chances of getting it are high.
  • Assess your other risk factors – smoking, diet, weight, exercise, lifestyle and activity, there are plenty of good apps, books and websites to help you make a judgement.
  • Be prepared – how would you know if you were having a heart attack? What could you do while waiting for the ambulance and paramedics? Does anyone know CPR?
  • How will you help younger siblings and children, to cope with the genetic and lifestyle legacy? Or is it ok for them to go through what you do? If it’s good enough for me it’s good enough for them?
  • Research, read, talk, ask, participate this is your life, a Doctors ten minute appointment. Fight for your right to live healthily as possible.

Professor David Haslam, chairman of the National Institute of Health and Care Excellence (NICE), said British patients should become more assertive and see themselves as “equal partners” with their doctors, with legal rights.

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So this blog is not about the bypass but rather a clarion call to get YOU all to be aware of this disease and be prepared to fight! I have done more, lived harder, suffered and achieved things I thought were impossible because I wanted to live. I did not want to orphan my child at 14 or 24. My father died when I was 24, he was 55, I have lived longer than he did because I know this disease better than we did then!

I Can’t Believe It’s Butter Chicken
This is a recipe that will work for Jack Sprat and his wife, for those who need low fat food and those who don’t. I love the flavour of butter chicken but cannot take the level of fat so here is my recipe with acknowledgement to Sanjeev Kapoor.
You can do this with boneless and bone chicken it’s about time and preference, the latter is better in flavour! This is the boneless version, if you want to cheat buy roast tandoori chicken or pieces and put in sauce.
Stage 1
800g Chopped chicken pieces,
juice of a lime or lemon or use two tablespoon of bottled
Teaspoon Kashmiri chilli, (or half paprika, half chilli powder)
1/2 teaspoon salt
Leave to marinade at least 20 minutes
Stage 2
Now add:
Teaspoon mustard french
Teaspoon turmeric and garam masala each
Tablespoon each of puréed garlic and ginger ( or block of frozen)
1 finely chopped chilli
Pinch kasuri methi lightly toasted and powdered (optional)
500 g pot of yoghurt fat free, the Greek strained is best, but any will work fine, best to drain using muslin cloth. ( look up hung yoghurt)
If you like hot add some more chilli powder, if I have I add finely chopped stalks of coriander.
Leave to marinate for two hours or overnight.

The Sauce
1 litre of good quality of passata or a kilo of finely chopped fresh tomatoes must be ripe.
Bash 7/8 green cardamoms, pinch of Kasuri methi and
3 cloves, 6 black peppercorns, teaspoon cumin seeds, coriander seeds ( or a tablespoon whole garam masala mix)
1 inch of cinnamon bark, a bay leaf  (I do not have mace but it’s recommended by some chefs)
Tablespoon each of Fresh ginger and garlic paste
2 green chillies chopped ( deseed if you like it milder)
Teaspoon paprika
1/2 teaspoon garam masala
Salt to taste

In a large pan heat a teaspoon of oil – rapeseed, coconut, olive oil or butter(optional I quite often dry fry spices but keep heat low)
Add spices wait for the smell (1/2 minutes), add ginger garlic & chillies stir fast for 2 minutes max, now add passata or tomatoes stir, I add half a litre of water and leave on a medium it should be simmering, no lid. Cook for about 30 minutes add more liquid if drying out or turn down the heat. Let it cool, and put in a mixer or blender and then if you want fancy strain to remove the bits of spices.
Remove chicken from marinade using a slotted spoon or tongs put on foil in a tray, roast in grill oven or on skewers in a barbecue or a griddle your choice, little bit of charring is good.
Put 2 teaspoons of cornflour in a jug add some cold milk or water to make a paste. Now add the remains of the yoghurt marinade to the corn flour paste and put into the tomato mix, stir and heat until bubbling, it will curdle, the corn flour should reduce it but it may not. Let it cook very slowly for 5 – 10 minutes, as the yoghurt mixture had raw chicken, it MUST be hot. Now add the roasted chicken pieces and all the bits. Mix well, let it heat through. Check for seasoning a teaspoon of honey or sugar may be added if too sour as some tomatoes can be, add salt chillies if needed.
Now you can split into two bowls: first put half in one just add fresh coriander.
For the rest add a nob of butter let it melt, then add 50 ml of double cream stir, warm do not boil. Transfer and decorate with coriander serve with steamed rice, roti or nan.